Thursday, September 28, 2006

Mr. and Mrs.

This past Saturday in the coastal village of Rockland, Maine, I was married to my sweetheart. Naturally, it rained. We packed all forty odd guests into the creaky (yet lovely) bed and breakfast where we were staying and held the ceremony on the stairs coming down into the entryway. Aya was breathtaking. The vision of her walking towards me makes my heart skip a beat. There was dancing, fine local microbrews, cake, toasts and the sort of joyful intelligent conversation that is the root of all that is great and wonderful.

I am not a superstitious man, but I enjoy the random confluence of happenstance and clever planning that gives the miraculous appearance of good omens. September 23rd was a very special day.
  • Rain, you see, is almost always good luck. Why, I do not know, but I’m very willing to take my aunt’s word on the matter.
  • The day also happened to be the autumn equinox. We had small ritual-sized pumpkins, but I’m not sure anyone got around to performing any proper pagan harvest rites. Note to self: Next time invite more witches.
  • Both my mother and my amazing bride share a birthday, September 23rd to be exact. Yes, I am quite absentminded and yes, the women in my life are kind beyond all reasonable expectations.
  • My mother turned 60. This is the 5th cycle of the Chinese calendar and represents a time of rebirth. She found this to be the best news she had heard in a quite a few birthdays. “No, today you are younger, not older.”
Another connection occurred on that rainy day in Maine. Aya’s parents and good friend Michiko traveled all the way from the distant isle of Honshu to be at the ceremony. A marriage is as much about the joining of two families as it is about finally kicking the bride and groom out of their parent’s house. We were honored to have both sides of our family together in one place.
Two vignettes stand out:
  • At the rehearsal dinner, Aya’s father gave me a bullet shaped USB drive from Akihabara. It was the modern version of a shotgun wedding in this age of birth control and blushing thirty-year-old brides. I smiled and laughed…and took his message very, very seriously.
  • The first night Michiko arrived, we stopped by the nearby greasy spoon to eat a bit of lobster. The weathered waitress couldn’t quite believe Aya and Michiko’s request for soy sauce and lemon instead of melted butter. Delicious. I suspect a local Maine legend was born that night.
After the wedding, the days flew by. There were few thoughts of work, games or honestly much of anything. For our mini-honeymoon we drank mead, moseyed through nearby museums, and supped at fine restaurants. I’m still in mild shock.

My god, she is a beautiful woman. How could I be so lucky?

Many thanks to everyone who helped make our wedding so marvelous.


  1. Congrats Mr. and Mrs. DanC. Hope you have a nice hooneyman. Cheers.

  2. Congratulations, Danc! Yes, rain is very good luck.

  3. Congratulations! And I thought Dice Wars was to blame for lack of updates :)

  4. Congratulations! Maine is so pretty! Have any pictures to share?

  5. Congratulations! Your mini-honeymoon sounds absolutely ideal and stress-free. And thanks for saving us from Dice Wars. I can't be the only one who had to waste an hour on it every time I checked your site for updates.

  6. Good luck Dan! Hope you have many little Dan-lings? Dan-lets?

    Anyway, all the best from other the pond!

  7. Greatest of congratulations, and best wishes for your future life! May you have blessings and joy.

  8. Excellent News!
    Now get back to work.


  9. Everyone else already said the things I wanted to, but an extra Congratulations can't hurt, can it?

  10. congrats!

    a lurking reader,

  11. Does this mean that you're not a virgin any longer? :-o
    (if so... what's it like?)

  12. Danc! You are truely blessed. Best wishes. Jones/

  13. I thought your blog had been kinda quiet lately.

    Congratulations! Nothing beats the love of a great woman who will support you in you craziness. I wish you every happiness.

  14. Congratulations from myself and my little Lost Garden reading community in Australia!

  15. Felicidades desde México :D

  16. Congratulations! Best wishes to the happy couple!

  17. She is beautiful and you are lucky to have her. Never forget that, and you'll have a legacy before you know it.

    My family has enjoyed getting to know the beautiful Aya, and we get forward to knowing the little ones that come in your wake...

    ...So get cracking!! (I'm never satisfied, am I?)


  18. (oh yeah, my girls all adore you too... but Aya's super special...)


  19. I only met you (and Aya, briefly) the once in Boulder, but my heartfelt congratulations nonetheless! (I married MY sweetheart in June, and it's still amazing!)

    P Schaefer

  20. Congratulations/Kanpai/Muchas felicidades!

    May you live a long and happy life together :D

    Greetings from Guadalajara, Mexico